This goes out to all my feminist friends. I've read my share of feminist literature- Steinem, Klein, even Camille Paglia (controversial and sadistic-you go Grrrrl!) I've even taken a Women's Studies course or two.
My question is this: Why do you think that because I've chosen to live my life fairly traditionally (husband, kid, shaved armpits, etc.) that I don't believe in fairness and equality? Maybe I just know myself, and enjoy being the Domestic Goddess that I am.
When you visit my home, I don't care about your feminist principles- help me with the GD dishes if I cook for you. Do you think that because I work at home that I'm your doormat?
I've had this experience with 3 different women in the past couple of years: You're a feminist, fair enough. The problem is that you refuse to do anything domestic whatsoever. But I think that it's just being a polite houseguest to help around the kitchen a little, regardless of personal politics- ESPECIALLY when you have special dietary requests like vegetarian/fair trade/lactose & gluten-free gourmet meals!
When you visit me, I will be a gracious host, but I find it exasperating to tell a grown woman "ummm...maybe you could watch the baby while I cook/clean/entertain you?" You are not the Queen of Sheeba!