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Saturday, June 22, 2013

A breakup letter

Posted on Sat, Jun 22, 2013 at 7:30 AM

When we first met, you initially gave me the opportunity to be the best person I could be. You made promises that this would be the best thing that ever happened to me. That you would do everything to show me how to fulfill myself as a human being so that i could better enrich the entities that were you, myself and us. You expressed what seemed like a sincere desire to help me achieve happiness within our unit. You used to tell me that your dream was to make our union my dream. That together we would make that happen.

Dude, you misrepresented yourself.

Right from the first week as your official better half, I noticed things were fucked right from the start. My honest mistakes produced a flurry of sarcasm and insults. My achievements went largely unnoticed. My lack of immediate total insight into your inner workings caused you to question my very value as a person. You would tell me how things were, then change your mind and insult me when i tried to do what you asked me to. Whenever I asked for your guidance to try and be more like the person you wanted me to be, you had no time to listen. Then chastised me for not nagging you enough.

Probably the most frustrating thing is that you expected me to help fashion your ideal reality, yet would become annoyed and flippant when i admitted I needed your help in creating that reality. Then got disillusioned when that reality didn't come to pass in the vague, yet exact, way you wanted it to but didn't communicate to me.

No man is an island. I can't make a relationship work alone. You would chide me for not asking for help but whenever i did, i was ignored. Then i was chided for being ignored.

However, there are a lot of good things about our relationship. Your initial expectations of me suit my personality and abilities. I want to continue to be the person you wanted me to be. I just feel that you have no interest in helping me get there and, in fact, are out to sabotage me.

So here is what i propose. I will stay for now but I want us to see other people. I encourage you to find someone who can fit into your bizarre system and in return, I will be seeking opportunities elsewhere. If i find one that better suits me, I will move on. If you find one that better suits you, I encourage you to do the same. I have no fear of finding that harmony. I have never been treated like this before and have always been valued and allowed personal dignity. This is how i know that a good deal of this is not my fault. For whatever may have been my fault, you have my sincere apologies. For nobody is perfect. But i never wanted to disappoint you.

Far from being my ideal relationship, as you promised, this has become a source of constant stress, pain and low self-esteem. I will not allow this to happen to myself so just the knowledge that I will be seeking greener pastures renders all your abuse and double-talk inert. Do what you will now. Because I have a plan. I have faith in my ability to escape what has become an abusive relationship. I'm no longer afraid of you.

Rest assured that when i find the opportunity that can provide me with a stable, loving home, I will give you two weeks' notice, as stipulated in my contract. In fact, no, fuck that. Just to be a decent person, i will give you a month. Because I'm a good guy. —employee

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