What happened? We dated for three weeks and had a fantastic time. Our times together consisted of a pile of laughs and opening up about what we wanted in life. We had sex twice during that period. You were exactly what I was looking for all these years—I'm 36—in a potential long-term girlfriend, beautiful inside and out. I suggested we open the next door and go exclusive. You were hesitant and said we should take that slower. I was perfectly fine with that and backed off, not wanting to come on too strong. A week after that discussion, you end it with me and told me I wasn't what you were looking for but didn't really give me a reason why, just told me we weren't a match. I don't understand, from our talks it seemed like I would
be what you were looking for—I'm reasonably intelligent, I have a good job and good social skills, I'm sensitive, well travelled and goal-oriented, and I treated you with nothing but respect. Isn't that what a well-rounded girl looks for, after all? You even told me twice that's what you want in a guy! I then thought you were just scared to commit, but this week I discover you're back on the dating site, clearly stating you still wanted long-term. What did I do wrong? Or were you just lying to me? I'm baffled. -Dodged a Bullet?