This has been a long couple of months of not speaking to you. I thought it would be easier seeing how it ended with you physically assaulting me. I could see all the stress eating away my body and self-worth. At times I get so angry at your behaviour when we were together and other times I miss you terribly. In the end, being in a relationship with someone shouldn't mean losing yourself completely or making excuses for their abusive behaviours.
—Seeing The Light At The End Of The Tunnel

When we met, it was a whirlwind. We fell in love quick and hard. We married after three years. Everything was perfect. We had a great life. THEN, you got a new job which required you to be away for six months prior to starting said job. Life was about to get even better. The day you came home, you told me you were miserable and wanted a divorce. You turned your back on me and everything we had built together. Radio silence... you cut me out, my family, mutual friends and more. There was no talking about it, you had made your mind up. You were finally financially stable enough to support yourself. You said there was no one else… we'll see. Just a tip for you with future boyfriend(s) (or current) or husband: As a masters student in communications, maybe a little communication is key. Yes, we both had problems, but why lie to your family and friends and say it wasn't working out between us? YOU quit and walked away from almost 10 years without so much as a thought about fighting for it. Now I'm the one renting a room from a friend and your the success you always hoped to be. I really hope you do find happiness and I hope the right people see this to set the record straight. That you ripped my heart out and wiped your asshole with it. —Barely Coping

I know everything you did. I know you had feelings for him before your marriage ended. I know how fast you got with him after you ended us and his wife died. I know why you blocked me and cut all communication and ties so quickly, so I couldn't see what you were doing and couldn't say anything once I knew. I know why you wouldn't acknowledge me anymore, because of the guilt you'd feel knowing you did what you did.

What I never saw was it coming. I never would have believed that you were capable of behaving in such a cold, calculating manner towards not only me but the kids. I believed that you loved me, that you needed time for yourself to heal, that you didn't want another relationship or to be with anyone else. I believed in you and I was wrong. I wonder if your dreams talk to you about what you did... Do you look in the mirror and not like what's looking back at you? Out of all the choices you could have made, you chose the most destructive for everyone involved...You burned bridges and you never looked back. But your choices have put you on a dead end with destiny and having to face your feelings and actions that have caused so much pain. You've acted selfishly and hurt people that were very close to you that loved you. I'm beyond disappointed in you and the kids and I deserved much better. Shame on you...You've betrayed yourself and everything you ever said to me and yourself for everything you said you were going to do for you. —Disappointed

You asked me to respect your decision to end the relationship and I did, even though I wasn't happy about it. You never discussed how we would handle the situation between the kids and left no ability to do so, which is how I discovered you deleted/blocked me on all communication, when I tried to do so. Every time you pass by me and can't be bothered to acknowledge me? Seriously? And all this from someone who claimed to love me and care about my feelings...Did you ever stop to think about how your decision to cut off all contact or acknowledgement would affect others around you?

My daughter is hurt and doesn't understand why she can't talk to you or play with your daughter. She doesn't understand why your daughter told her it would be another 1-2 years before (you) would be ok and they could play together again. She doesn't understand why your daughter told her you hate me and didn't like us coming over to your house so much. She loved you too and here I am trying to tell her you're a good person and just going through a difficult time which is why we can't see you. You asked me to respect your need to heal but you gave me no ability to hear or discuss my needs or concerns going forward around this.

You make me question everything that happened between us and who you are as a person. Maybe all I ever was to you was a rebound and a way to pump up your self esteem...You used me, that's how it's looking now. I understand you were hurting but why would you need to completely cut us out of your life when we've done nothing but love and support you? Love is a two way street, when you ask for respect and consideration, you should be willing to give it and your actions after the end, doesn't match your prior words. I believed in you and I'm so hurt and disappointed in how you've handled this situation... You deserved better in your marriage, just as I derived better from you after our relationship. If you think this Bitch sounds harsh....Just remember that ALL of it could have been avoided by keeping a simple line of communication open… —Rebound Guy

Grow. the. fuck. up. I'm all for casual sex, but to sleep with a girl and literally NEVER speak to her again, yet hit on her best friend when they're sitting together every night? Really? We're not trying to marry you, we're not trying to date you, we're not even trying to sleep with you again. But the occasional word or two isn't an unreasonable request. We already know you're a horny douchebag, so asking you not to hit on our best friends would just be spiteful. But please make an attempt to get your head out of your ass and act like a fucking adult for once. We PROMISE not to take it as a sign that you "like" us, don't worry.

Cause anyway, let's be real. I was faking.

--Not as satisfied as you'd like to believe

Is there any decent guys in Nova Scotia? Huh HUH?

To the guy who seemed to really care, and then got a little sum sum and vanished: FUCK YOU!

Why do men/people think it is okay to do this? Do they not realize that it makes the other person feel like shit?

--From The Hurt Girl.

When I got engaged, I telephoned you, long-distance, to let you know. I waited several days to post the news on Facebook because I was unable to get hold of you. I even emailed and texted you to find out when I could reach you by phone to tell you my news. You were SO excited, and very thankful that I told you before you read about it on Facebook. Your exact words were "That would have been horrible, I'm so glad you told me "in person" instead of letting me read about it."

That was a year ago. Today, I get a NewsFeed on my Facebook that you got married. MARRIED! As awesome as I think that is, I am ROYALY pissed that you didn't even TRY to contact me before you put it up for the world to see! It's not like my number has changed, it's not like we haven't been in touch. I know you eloped, but come on, a quick call to tell me before I learned about it with people you barely even KNOW would have been nice.

---am I nuts to be pissed?

I hate that I loved you and I hate even more that after all the awful things you said to me, that I still do.

After 2 years of being my best friend, confidant, and love, it repulses me that you would not only think of, but accuse me of, and believe that I would ever pose as someone else AND attempt to hurt anyone.. WTF?!

I hope that 1 day you wake the fuck up and realize that you were so in the wrong... in a single EMAIL you turned 2 years of honest companionship into 2 years of lies and a complete waste of time. I hope you think hard about this and feel regret, if only for a minute, about what a giant asshole you were. I know an apology is too much to ask, so I don't need it.. I know that 1 day you'll feel the guilt- you lost someone wonderful, who cared for you unconditionally.

--sad but happy you're gone

I really hate fighting with you, I do. But you just piss me off so much when you mock me. Yeh I can be a bit childish and slam a door, but why do you have to do it right after me? There is no point to be proven, two wrongs don't make a right in case you haven't heard, and why the fuck do you always answer my question with another question?! Holy shit when you do that it goes right through me!!!! Fuck marriage is hard sometimes!

---Happy Wife, Happy Life?

You have managed to drive everyone who cares about you away because of your selfish and cruel actions, and finally you have gotten what you deserve, and that is what you have done to way too many men the past year. Now, like them, you are alone, and desperate.

I for one don't care about you anymore either, and not because you hurt people I care for ( I don't take sides when it comes to friends) but watching you do what you did to any human being with emotions is unacceptable.

People are not emotional punching bags for you to use what you need and dump for "something better"

We were never friends, and I'm glad for that now.

---Live in the hell you created, alone.