I understand that weddings are a celebration of love and the gathering of the two family's is very traditional and usually fantastic but have a back bone people! Invite YOUR guests, the people who YOU want to see.. Invite your friends with tattoos who have held your hair back when you puked alongside Aunt Martha who held you once when you were an infant but you haven't seen since..
Have the reception at your favorite dive bar, don't have an hour long religious based church wedding if the only time you pray is when you miss your period, BE YOU. This is YOUR day.