I was about to post a love-letter to my new kittens, Hazelnut and Filbert, then I saw yours, and thought it would be fine to ride your coat-tails! I have one cute and evil kitten, and one cute and angelic one. They get along great, and my dog has adjusted to their presence, and even plays and sleeps with them! Thank goodness, they sleep a lot.
I am so happy with my little family! I'm planning on getting another puppy next Autumn, which will make it complete. Here's to lots of pet lovins for 2010!
Isn't it grand? The NSNT is doing a great job of encouraging people to donate their valuable land to be protected. No shopping centres or condos, ever! I'm also proud of our government for giving tax credits to people who donate conservation-worthy land. It's good to know that some very beautiful territory will be protected!
Who was it that said "children would rather be FROM a broken home than IN one"? Don't stay with her for the sake of the kids. That's a terrible burden to place on them, and the previous posters are right about the relationship between you and your wife being imprinted on the kids.
Don't just bail out, either = get some help, see if there is some way to save the relationship, if you can still find any love in your heart for this woman. She might be suffering from a mental illness that can be treated. She might be able to thank you some day for saving her life.
Dear OP: I heartily recommend Cognitive Therapy (aka Cognitive Behaviour Therapy). The fact is, we think some pretty nasty things, and because we think them, we believe they are true. You've been spending a lot of lonely years believing all the negative things you believe, and it's hard to change that, but not impossible. I went through "The Feeling Good Workbook" by David Burns, and it changed my entire way of thinking, permanently. It wasn't easy, it was often painful (like tearing off a bandaid), and it took a lot of work, but do you have something better to do than to save your own life?
I took Effexor for a year, too, and had a couple of sessions with a therapist, but the book did the most good. If you decide to try it, take my advice, and don't let yourself talk yourself out of it. The whole thing sounds too good to be true, and it's easy to believe that it's bullsh*t, but give it a serious try. What do you have to lose?
I realize that your issue isn't the same as mine was, so you might need more specific help than one book can provide. However, if your problem includes not wanting to reach out to other humans, this is something you can do by yourself, for yourself, that might very well help you lose your fear of others enough to enable you to reach out.
If you need someone to talk to, you see how easy it is - just post a comment on here!
People whine all Winter, waiting for Spring. Then they complain all Spring, waiting for heat. Then they complain that it's too hot. Then they complain that Summer is too short, and Winter is coming.
I am trying very hard to block it all out, and go about enjoying all the weather. I love it all! Well, honestly, I don't do well in very humid heat, but then it's the best weather for swimming! Really, there's something good to be said about all the weather. Why do people think it's okay to complain all the time?
I know some people who got married at 16 and 19, and have been married for 35 years. I know a couple who got engaged the first night they met, and married three months later; the last I saw of them, they were still in love with each other 30 years later.
I was married at 28, after we dated for a year, then lived together for a year. We thought we were mature and believed we were marrying for all the right reasons, and were quite happily married for many years. Eight years ago, I was diagnosed with long-term, clinical depression, and went into CB therapy. As I remembered who I was when I was happy, I realized I couldn't be happy in my marriage any more. (It's a long story.) After nearly 21 years of marriage, we will soon be divorced.
We were civilized about it. No children were involved, but if there had been, I might never have left him. The process wouldn't be any easier if we had lived common-law.
The fact is, I am glad I was married, glad that it worked as well as it did for as long as it did, glad that my ex is doing very well for himself, and glad that I still have some good years to be my own person again.
Some relationships last "forever"; they aren't always happy ones, but some are. Some only last for a time, and are treasured experiences, not hideous tragedies.
Let the shades of gray into your thinking, and let yourself imagine your friends succeeding, one way or another, beyond your imagination. Don't doom people with your negative expectations.
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I am so happy with my little family! I'm planning on getting another puppy next Autumn, which will make it complete. Here's to lots of pet lovins for 2010!
Don't just bail out, either = get some help, see if there is some way to save the relationship, if you can still find any love in your heart for this woman. She might be suffering from a mental illness that can be treated. She might be able to thank you some day for saving her life.
I took Effexor for a year, too, and had a couple of sessions with a therapist, but the book did the most good. If you decide to try it, take my advice, and don't let yourself talk yourself out of it. The whole thing sounds too good to be true, and it's easy to believe that it's bullsh*t, but give it a serious try. What do you have to lose?
I realize that your issue isn't the same as mine was, so you might need more specific help than one book can provide. However, if your problem includes not wanting to reach out to other humans, this is something you can do by yourself, for yourself, that might very well help you lose your fear of others enough to enable you to reach out.
If you need someone to talk to, you see how easy it is - just post a comment on here!
I am trying very hard to block it all out, and go about enjoying all the weather. I love it all! Well, honestly, I don't do well in very humid heat, but then it's the best weather for swimming! Really, there's something good to be said about all the weather. Why do people think it's okay to complain all the time?
I was married at 28, after we dated for a year, then lived together for a year. We thought we were mature and believed we were marrying for all the right reasons, and were quite happily married for many years. Eight years ago, I was diagnosed with long-term, clinical depression, and went into CB therapy. As I remembered who I was when I was happy, I realized I couldn't be happy in my marriage any more. (It's a long story.) After nearly 21 years of marriage, we will soon be divorced.
We were civilized about it. No children were involved, but if there had been, I might never have left him. The process wouldn't be any easier if we had lived common-law.
The fact is, I am glad I was married, glad that it worked as well as it did for as long as it did, glad that my ex is doing very well for himself, and glad that I still have some good years to be my own person again.
Some relationships last "forever"; they aren't always happy ones, but some are. Some only last for a time, and are treasured experiences, not hideous tragedies.
Let the shades of gray into your thinking, and let yourself imagine your friends succeeding, one way or another, beyond your imagination. Don't doom people with your negative expectations.