Dating wisdom

What do you wish you’d known in first year about dating that you know now?

“Don’t go after the first opportunity that’s given to you…Or how ‘bout, don’t be so naïve about everything, about guys who are trying to mislead you. Don’t be easily persuaded.”
Sarah Delaney
Mount Saint Vincent University, 3rd year Arts

“I would say don’t go after the athletes and if you go to a small university like the Mount. I would date outside-the-school boys.”
Andrea Fennell
Mount Saint Vincent University, 3rd year Nutrition

“Just talk to everyone in class, I guess, just anyone you want to talk to. Get out. Go into sports, anything like that. Eat in the cafeteria instead of your room. That’s a pretty good one. Get drunk.”
Andrew Arsenault
Saint Mary’s University, 3rd year Psychology

“I wish I’d known that university dating is not a whole lot different than high school dating. Maturity levels---kinda the same! Stand up for yourself…boys still suck."
Vanessa Pook
Dalhousie University, 4th year Environmental Science & International Development Studies

“I wish I’d known that you have to be assertive and you can’t let the girl that you like get away from you just because you think you’re in the same classes and you’ll wind up running into each other all the time. I came from a small town, so the people you date are the people you’ve known all your life. If you don’t know somebody you have to get out there, put yourself out there and risk getting shot down, because it happens a bunch. And then you just have to apply yourself and be assertive.”
Scott Mallory
Dalhousie University, 3rd year Music

“…There’s a happy medium between trying to sleep with every girl you meet and the, you know, kind of unrealistic, happily-ever-after relationship trope. It’s good to experience a balance between being über relationship-y and über slutty.”
Rory MacLellan
University of King’s College, 6th year Philosophy

“It’s tough to distinguish between friends and more than friends when you’re dealing with the opposite sex. And sometimes you should take time and think who is a good friend and worth just keeping in the friend zone and who you maybe want to take it to the next level with.”
Brandon Tolliver
University of King’s College, 3rd year Contemporary Studies & Classics

“Date older guys. Be wary of who you date in first year, especially people in your residence. Don’t sleep over at a guys rez room and get lost late at night. Don’t expect them to walk you home. I’d say just try not to date for the first little while until you get a feel for who people are. Just because a lot of people aren’t looking to date in first year. They’re just looking to hook up.”
Avery Masewich
Dalhousie University, 3rd year International Development Studies & Anthropology

“People will ask you questions…but they really don’t care at all about your answer. So you could make up absolutely anything. Like saying you’re in the acting program at Dalhousie sounds pretty fuckin’ made up. So I could say anything. I could say I’m in Physics or something way cooler than acting, like Business. Lie to make yourself sound cooler… I guess if you’re coming to Dalhousie and you want to get a sweet broad, pretend you’re in business and you play on a sports team. It’s pretty much guaranteed.”
David Hung
Dalhousie University, 4th year Theatre

“Get to know the person before you fall in love with them, because usually it ends sour. Really. It usually ends in a mess. And you learn a lot. But at the same time you feel like you’ve wasted a lot of your time. So really, just find out who they are if you really are attracted. And don’t settle.”
Tia Cox
CompuCollege, 4th year Interior Decorating

“I probably wish I knew to take it slow, keep my options open. Explore. Make sure you get to know your surroundings before you settle down with one person. Don’t get tied down and stay free. That’s my advice.”
Amanda Dedrick
Mount Saint Vincent University, 3rd year Business

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