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Being gay is not an embarassment

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I must respond to Jean Macle's letter "Bill Forbes' obit humiliating" (Letters, September 17). I hope that even though Ms. Macle is only an occasional Coast reader, one of her friends will bring it to her attention.

The fact that Bill Forbes ("Farwell to Forbes" by Alison Lang, July 30) was gay is not an embarrassment. It is not an embarrassment to himself, or his family, nor his friends, colleagues or fellow citizens.

I am going to go out on a limb and assume that you, Ms. Macle, identify as heterosexual. Are you embarrassed by this? When you die, and they write about you in the paper, would you like them to omit if you had a husband or partner?

We try so hard to resist categorization by saying "well he was so much more than gay..." et cetera, that we begin to lose sight of the fact that our sexuality is who we are. It makes us up. It attracts us to others in order to partner with them, but also to make friends and business associations. Our sexuality does not reduce or embarrass us; it frees us to be a fully expressed version of ourselves.

I sincerely hope that Ms. Macle is embarrassed that she acted on a bigoted impulse and wrote a letter than did far more harm than the original article about Bill that simply stated a simple, wonderful fact about him.

As for the supposed readers The Coast has lost because of that article---I call bullshit. Don't be a bully, Ms. Macle. It's embarrassing.

Stewart Legere, Halifax

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