Great that you found a new guy. Yes, that's terribly heartbreaking , but do you think you could have had the fortitude to tell me the truth. Instead you make it out like you are doing me the greatest of favours by " not holding me back any longer" because I had more invested than you. Maybe that made you feel better about yourself , but now I'm to deal with the loss of you in addition to the dishonesty that so resembles my ex-wife. I don't like to give your ex the benefit of the doubt , but it would seem " dangling your pussy" is closer to the truth than either one of us wanted to believe. Brutal honesty over benign deceit is always the best policy. —Enlightened